The Bottom Line Now is not the time to be critical. Jump in headfirst -- sort out the facts later. In Detail You have very little time to achieve your mission of finding a way to make your loved ones realize that working together on the same side is better for all parties concerned than keeping a nonsensical feud going -- which won't help anyone at all. That said, you can only do what you can do -- and you can't live anyone else's life for them. So if they won't cooperate, don't beat yourself up about it.